Positive living and wellbeing
Positivity and peace of mind is something to cherish in life but is sometimes difficult to achieve. I believe that if you truly want something bad enough and believe in yourself, you can achieve just about anything. The thought of finding peace in your life can sometimes seem impossible. There is so much going on in this crazy world and a lot of it is, let’s just say, not that great. When trying to find a more peaceful lifestyle, I have found that doing some self-reflection is key. I know that can be easier said than done. Regardless, if you want change in your life, it helps to step back and see what you could be doing differently. Whether it is getting up 10 minutes earlier in the morning for some relaxing stretches and breathing techniques or going for a walk outside when you are feeling overwhelmed. Anything to get your mind to where you want it to be instead of where it’s been programmed to go for so long. Some of us are hardwired to stress about the little things in life. I know I am so that is where I started. I started to ask myself, “is this something I really need to focus my energy on right now or can I come back to this later when I have cleared my head space?” Each individual’s natural reaction is unique and organic, but we can tweak our reactions with some simple techniques to help us make it through the day a little less stressed.
My Mission
I hope to help you find some ways to create a peaceful life for yourself. I have been through some very tough times and have tried just about everything to find that inner peace and wellbeing before I found what was right for me. Each individual is different and that is what makes this world such an interesting place. How we choose to live our lives can make an impact on those around us. If you want to be around positive people, try to be that example. As far as a calming technique, what works for one person might not work for the next. Sometimes, it’s just stopping and looking at an image that calms your mind, but for some it might be a brisk walk to get your heartrate up. Depending on who you are, there is something out there for everyone and I hope I can help you find peace in your life.
My Story
I had just turned 30 and was a classic case of, “NO! My 20’s are gone, I’m so old now!” I was already struggling with the fact that I still had no clue what I wanted to do in life, so I was feeling pretty down and discouraged. Little did I know that I was about to receive the worse news I’ve ever gotten in my life. My dad passed way at the age of 63 without warning. Our birthdays were two days apart and we literally just celebrated them together two months ago. I thought I was going to throw up and pass out at the same time. My world was shattered. I made a stiff drink and stepped out on the back porch while my mind spun out of control. I cried and refused to smile for months because smiling just felt wrong. How could I smile when my dad just passed away? I wouldn’t allow myself to be happy. That’s when I started reaching for the bottle for comfort…big mistake.
I started drinking pretty heavy and it was showing at home and my job. I showed up at work under the influence one day and that was it. I checked myself into rehab the next day. I spent the next 45 days in rehab with a bunch of strangers two hours from home and limited contact with my family. I suffered a withdrawal three days in that lead to me being carried out on a stretcher and into a hospital bed. The details during my stay at the hospital and rehab are difficult to swallow but were life changing. The night before I left, I was told by a nurse that I would be back. When I asked her what she meant by that, she told me that I was so far gone when I arrived that she thought for sure I would be returning. I will bever forget that moment. Thinking about that moment used to get me so upset. What an incredibly discouraging thing to say to someone who just went through all that. Now, if anything, “thank you, rude nurse! Thanks for the incentive.” Once my time in rehab was up, I came back home sober, not knowing how to act. I had been in a deep dark hole for such a long time, I didn’t know who I was anymore. So, I decided to re-invent myself. I started eating healthy and exercising. I was doing breathing techniques and grounding therapy that I learned in rehab, and they were excellent at getting me started on the right path to a peaceful wellbeing. Now, I am able to focus on what is important in life and use what I have learned to surround myself with positivity. I’ve learned to take life one day at a time and when you focus on the journey instead of the destination, you can get a lot more out of life. I hope I can help you find some ideas that will help you create positivity in your life.
